Before we go any further, it’s important to get one thing out of the way. The divine masculine twin flame is not always biologically male. I get asked often about understanding the ‘male twin flame feelings,’ but it’s important you’re able to pinpoint precisely which is which.

Having said this – I’ve spoken to literally thousands of people about their twin flame journeys, and I’d say the vast majority of times, your masculine or feminine energy matches your biological gender, but it’s important to understand that this isn’t a hard set rule.

The vast majority of our readers are women, and as one of the (relatively) few male writers on twin flames, I might have a different perspective.

It’s certainly true that the divine feminine is generally the more spiritually attuned twin and, therefore, commonly the chaser twin. We’ve already looked at understanding the twin flame runner’s feelings, so we’ll not get too far into that again. So whether the runner or chaser, we’re going to focus on the biological male twin flame, assuming they are the divine masculine.

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The Divine Masculine Meaning

You’ll see a certain amount of disagreement over what the divine masculine (commonly called the DM) means and how they feel. In general, the masculine energy is less in touch with their emotions, with their own spirituality, and with fewer other people.

And I say this as a guy. It’s (generally) true. Some say this is just how the universe is wired, some think it’s because cultural norms are forced on us at birth while others believe men subconsciously feel ashamed for the authority men held over women in the past.

Whatever the reason, the divine feminine (DF) is generally more spiritually awoken and connected to themselves and others.

In a twin flame journey, each twin balances and completes the other.

One is the DM, while the other is the DF. Remember, this will usually follow your biological gender, but not always. It’s usually easily apparent which twin is which, looking at how closed off they are.

So, if you want to understand the male twin flame feelings, assuming they are the divine masculine? They’re likely more closed off, less in touch with their own feelings and (generally) less aware of the twin flame journey they’re on.

This is why it’s very commonly the male twin flame who is the runner.

I use the word ‘generally’ often because it’s difficult to talk about something like this without making some obvious assumptions. If you’d like something more specific to your journey, get a twin flame reading, and we can look at the details.

Before We Go Any Further

I spend a lot of time in the twin flame community, and I’ve seen how heated discussions over male and female twin flames can become. It’s all too common for the divine masculine to be blamed for difficult and painful separation phases, and sometimes I’ve gotten flak for being a guy and voicing my opinion, but I’m here to help you on your journey.

It’s all too easy to play the blame game.

As with any part of the twin flame journey, it’s helpful to understand what’s going on, but don’t allow it to cloud your actions. Too many people end up blaming their divine masculine twin for not caring about their feelings or being too emotionally unavailable. Even when they’re the twin flame runners, this isn’t easy on them either.

If you’re the more spiritually aware twin flame, you might be hurting during turbulent phases of your journey. What you can easily miss is that they’re hurting, too. The only difference is – they don’t consciously understand why they’re hurting.

It isn’t necessarily harder or easier for either twin, but it’s important we don’t get caught up playing this ‘blame game’ of who has it easier. There are three things I need everyone to remember:

  • It isn’t your fault.
  • It isn’t their fault.
  • Painful separation phases are not a sign of weakness or a problem with your twin flame journey. It’s perfectly normal and part of your path together.

Some people feel the divine feminine has the task of offering unconditional love because they’re more equipped to be able to do it. There’s perhaps an element of truth to this, but it’s also important not to cause yourself undue emotional pain during the journey, which will ultimately slow you both down.

The main thing I want you to remember is both twins have a role during this journey. If you haven’t reached union yet, you both have work ahead of you. Be open and available to your twin, but it’s probably not just a case of waiting for them to do all the work.

And that goes for both the DF and DM.

The Male Twin Flame is Running… From Themselves

Some of the terminologies we use in the twin flame journey can be misleading at times. The DM is commonly the twin flame runner who finds an excuse to get away from the chaser. Generally, they give you (and themselves) an excuse like they’re not ready for a commitment or whatever line makes sense to them.

That’s because they’re running from themselves as much as they’re running from you.

It’s a spiritual fight-or-flight response. They’re not spiritually prepared for this kind of reaction, so their answer is to put up their walls and try and frame what they feel in some kind of context that makes sense to them.

So What Does the Masculine Twin Flame Feel?

The DM technically feels the same way you do. They feel the same intense attraction twin flames go through, and they’re always going to be subconsciously connected to the divine feminine.

It’s how they react to their feelings that differ. They don’t run because they feel any different to you, they run because they don’t understand these emotions. If you’re reading this, it’s likely you are the more spiritually awakened twin regardless of the stage of your journey. These emotions can be overwhelming even when you do understand the reason for them.

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Divine Masculine Traits

  • Protective and responsible
  • Adventurous and courageous
  • Logical and solution-orientated
  • Steadfast (or stubborn, or some might say)

You might be surprised to see courageous make the list, but when they run, it’s not that they’re necessarily afraid of commitment or you. In many cases, the male twin flame will be running to protect you from them. If they believe they’re only going to bring problems and negativity into your life, they’ll run to shelter you from that.

Again, I hear literally thousands of twin flame stories and I often hear of the male twin flame running after saying something like “I don’t deserve you”. Whether they verbally admit this or not, it’s more common than you might think.

The divine masculine energy is protective, but without the ability to understand what they’re actually dealing with, this protectiveness can reveal itself in some weird ways.

As a Twin Flame, Does the Man Know First?

Something I hear fairly often is that the male twin flame knows first. This is an interesting concept as it really comes down to what you consider knowing.

It’s certainly true that the male twin flame (assuming they are the divine masculine) is almost always the runner to begin with. This role can be swapped over time, but this trait is very common. The feminine twin flame almost always consciously understands the journey that they’re on first, but perhaps the male twin flame does know first – they don’t consciously understand what it is they know, so they run.

At the end of the day, it’s something people tend to argue over, but it doesn’t really matter. The twin flame journey spans lifetimes, so trying to figure out who knows what first in a single lifetime is a distraction at best. Focus on what you can do to move both you and your twin closer toward union, and don’t get caught up in the details, which ultimately serve as a distraction.

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The Role of the Divine Masculine

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In twin flame relationships, the divine masculine pertains to certain qualities like assertiveness and decisiveness, which complement the divine feminine. These energies transcend physical gender and are present in all twin flame dynamics.

Characteristics of the Divine Masculine

The divine masculine embodies strengthconfidence, and a propensity towards action. Common traits include:

  • Power: A natural inclination to lead and take charge.
  • Protectiveness: Instincts that drive the safeguarding of loved ones.
  • Confidence: Self-assurance that inspires and attracts others.

Divine masculine energy often manifests as resilience and an unyielding spirit, comparable to the power of the sun or fire — energetic and life-giving.

Divine Masculine in the Twin Flame Journey

During the twin flame journey, the divine masculine plays a catalytic role. They typically:

  • Act as an initiator for new endeavors and growth within the relationship.
  • Provide a logical framework that complements the intuitive aspect of the divine feminine.
  • Embody a forward momentum that prompts both twins towards spiritual evolution.

In the balance of twin flame dynamics, the divine masculine energy is essential for progress and transformation.

Divine Masculine Pain

If an individual is feeling a sense of loss, confusion, or emotional withdrawal in their connection, they may be experiencing divine masculine pain.

This typically surfaces as a response to deep emotional work or confronting the ego, which can be challenging for the masculine energy.

Why Does the Divine Masculine Withdraw?

The divine masculine might run or withdraw due to fear of vulnerability or unresolved personal issues.

This reaction is often a defense mechanism against the intensity of the twin flame connection and the profound self-examination it requires.

Can a Female Twin Flame Manifest Masculine Energy?

Yes, a female twin flame can embody masculine energy; the divine masculine and feminine energies are not gender-bound.

It manifests as her ability to set boundaries, take decisive actions, and display strength in leadership within the twin flame union.


After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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