We have so many videos on different aspects, stages and problems people face during a twin flame journey but we don’t often take a step back and look at the journey overall. It can help to look at the bigger picture and there’s actually a lot you can learn from doing so.
How to Look at the Journey
I know that some of the journey isn’t always fun but that doesn’t mean we should look at the whole thing as a grueling struggling. In fact, if we can ditch some of the negative emotion we hold with this assumption it might help us through it faster.
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Instead of obstacles, think of it as challenges. However, the question still remains, why are there so many challenges in the twin flame journey?
If we accept the fact that we are eternal souls occupying temporal lifetimes, twin flames occupy twice as many lifetimes by design. In each lifetime, we each build up experiences, both good and bad and sometimes, lose perspective of our higher purpose. We accumulate all kinds of past injury and wounds along the way. In our most immediate life, if we awaken, those injuries and wounds come to the surface to be healed.
The realization of being a twin flame is both confusing and clarifying. It is confusing because we are taught that we are only an individual life and realizing that some other person has the same soul as you is mind blowing. At the same time, twin flames instinctually know they are twin flames and the awakening and awareness is more of a confirmation than a revelation. Meeting your twin flame is, using your awakened eyes and looking into a mirror of your soul self. A soul’s recognition of itself in another person would be much like encountering yourself on the street somewhere. To say the least, it would be shocking. Many of us wouldn’t know whether we’d want to hug or hit our other selves.
Editors note: Keep in mind (and I know we say this a lot) not all journeys are the same. You don’t need to go looking for challenges where there doesn’t appear to be any (that isn’t going to lead anywhere positive) not every journey is going to have the same challenge. This is more a general idea of the kind of challenges most journeys tend to face.
Let’s start with the obvious external challenges. Twin flames tend to have multiple differences, of which society tends to disapprove. Why would that be? Because the universe loathes artificial conditions to love and twin flames are often meant to be a flamethrower to those conditions to love.
What, your twin flame is decades older, oh she’s Jewish, oh she’s black, oh she’s from Australia, oh she’s wealthy, oh she’s a genius, oh, she’s a he? ….. and you’re none of these things. The universe looks at you both, smiles and sends you an 1111, as its way of telling you to “just deal with it”. And the universe happens to be 100% right! Who the hell ever said that love should be conditioned on your similarities?
The true external challenge is not usually within the twins themselves, but within society as a whole. One or both twins get anything from funny looks, to rampant prejudice, to outright hostility from some segments of society. Sometimes, the closest people to the twins actively try to intervene in their “best interest”. Twin flames are a threat to the status quo and the majority of society favors consistency and tends to actively discourage twin flame pairings. Sometimes unfortunately, society is successful.
Not only do twins have to deal with the pressures of society and their own social barometers, but twin flames also have internal challenges. Much of the internal challenges are based upon confusion and vibrations in disharmony.
It is rare that both twins awaken at the same time. There are typically the spiritual twin who wakes up and the matrix twin who is unaware. I’m not sure who has the worse time trying to cope. The spiritual twin has all this raw knowledge, emotion and understanding of what is going on. Both the matrix and spiritual twin experience a love beyond description and a connection with their twin that is otherworldly. The difference is that the spiritual twin also mostly knows why it is happening. The curse of this knowledge is that it comes with a sense of powerless to do anything about it, until the matrix twin awakens on their own.
Oh, don’t get me wrong, the spiritual twin will try and have the matrix twin wake up, understand what is going on and show them how much they love them. This is often unsuccessful and creates the push/pull runner/chaser dynamic. This dynamic is fueled by fear more than anything else. Fear of not being loved and abandoned. Fear of the unknown and not being worthy of love. The challenge is to overcome fear and stop chasing. The challenge is to overcome fear and accept that you are worthy of love.
Another challenge of the twin flame journey is the connection between the twins. There are varying levels and degrees of telepathy between twins. Telepathy is not limited to thoughts, but intuition and emotions. Chakras align and what one twin feels can be felt by the other. The spiritual twin understands it, but the matrix twin has unexplained feelings and probably thinks they are going crazy.
Depending on the connection and interaction of the twins, the level of intensity can ebb and flow, but it’s always there. Those connections coupled with the eternal love bond, inevitably results in twins always having the other on their minds. This can be a problem if the twins do not deal with it directly as opposed to trying to get their twin off their mind. It is best for twins to simply incorporate their twin into their thoughts and be productive in their lives. As Carl Jung said, “what we resist, not only persists, but will grow in size.” And the same is true here. The harder you try to forget and get your twin off your mind, the deeper they will be there and it could turn into an obsession. Don’t let your love turn into obsession.
THE SHORT ANSWER:
The challenges exist to get you to the point where you can accept yourself and your twin unconditionally and love with the fire of a thousand suns, bursting into the reaches of all existence and setting the world itself, on fire with the kind of change that turns the temporal into the eternal.
This is from this answer on Quora.
Important Takeaways from the Twin Flame Journey
I think one of the best bits of advice I’ve ever heard on the journey is keeping in mind you did sign up to this. Maybe subconsciously – but it was you that decided you were ready to take this on.
Being together is not always being together physically.
Several times, I have had the experience of a friend telling me, “I couldn’t get you out of my head yesterday,” only to find that I experienced the same phenomenon with them. It has happened enough now for me to no longer view it as mere coincidence. I see my twin rarely physically, but he is often in the background of my thoughts, even when I am not consciously trying to imagine him there. He shows up in my dreams, even when I go for long periods of time without seeing or speaking to him.
This is certainly a common theme in a long of twin flame journey anecdotes. The idea of always having someone on your mind is common in a lot of situations but we recently looked at it when looking at are twin flames real?
There is a definite difference in the connection you feel between a twin flame and a crush. Having someone on your mind is one thing – feeling connected to them no matter where you are is a different beast. Energy does not lie.
Being together physically does not always mean love.
Time, attention, and sex do not equal love. With sexual harassment being the spotlight of today’s news, it is easy to see how this can be true. Humans have a limited period to spend on Earth and we cannot be multiple places at once, so sometimes we experience restrictions when it comes to our loved ones that we would most enjoy seeing. We give our time and attention to things that we do not love, every day. Precious little of it seems to go toward feelings of joy, love, or contentment. It does not come naturally, to look toward love, unless perhaps we are babies and have not been conditioned to do otherwise yet.
I’m not going to go off on another rant about modern society but if there’s any takeaway we should get from a twin flame journey it’s we should be more comfortable being wrong. Confront what you think and put yourself out there. Social media kind of leads us in the opposite direction but a twin flame journey is going to drag us through the flames regardless of what we think we know or want.
And that’s a good thing.
Your Journey Doesn’t Have to Compare to Others
How boring would we be if we all had the same stories? If this path were straightforward and uniform, how would we learn anything new? Be wary of teachers that state you are doing something wrong if you are not in physical union with your beloved. I have met many wise, loving, and successful souls, that I would describe as enlightened or operating at a high level of consciousness, who are in no romantic relationship. In fact, I have met more who are not than are in relationships. Maybe you are not experiencing the same signs and symptoms as another or what is popular on the Internet, but that does not mean your experience is less meaningful or not real.
I’ve seen far too many cases of people forcing themselves into a false twin flame relationship because they think it’s what they should be doing. They hear about the hype on stories here or elsewhere and think they should be doing the same thing.
It isn’t about the excitement – it’s about the journey and the destination.