When it comes to the twin flame journey, any twin flame can tell you that there’s a lot of stuff to process, go through, and get over at each and every stage. In realistic terms, there’s a lot of wounding and pain to deal with, too, since these are natural parts of the growth process. The twin flame soul bond is no exception to that rule.

There’s also a lot of healing that goes hand in hand with the growth process. The universe helps and supports the twins during this difficult but rewarding process. But it must be said that it’s not a journey for the faint of heart, and those going through one phase or another will surely attest to that.

twin flame pain

Sadly, the twin flame pain of being apart is a real thing. The separation phase can be painful emotionally, spiritually and even physically. I’ve done a full guide on the twin flame separation stage before, so we’ll get too far into that again, but we’ll focus on the pain you can feel when apart.

What does it mean, why does it happen, and what can you do?

Twin Flame Separation

We need to be clear about what we mean when discussing separation. Before you ever physically meet your twin flame, you’re both calling out to each other, guiding yourselves to find each other in the 2D. While you’re technically separated at this point, that very rarely comes with any kind of pain because you’re simply not aware of what you’re missing. You might feel a yearning for something which leads to a search, but it’s rarely what you’d describe as painful.

When we talk about separation, we’re talking about separation after that initial meeting.

I’ve already covered this before in the full guide, so we’ll not get into the details again, but it happens when you meet too soon. Your split soul is not ready for union, and while it can be a horrible experience, it is an important part of the journey. While it is never easy, this pain serves a purpose to help bring you both closer together.

Why There’s Pain

Because there’s a very strong energetic connection between twin flames, once they meet each other either in the spiritual and/or in the physical realm, the mere presence of your twin can cause a bit of a revolution in your energetic body.

There’s a lot of activating and shifting energy going on, and it can be very taxing on your physical form as you’re adjusting to the new frequencies. The connection means a lot of powerful energy dynamics, and it’s not necessarily comfortable while all the changes are going on.

Because of all that, the twin flame relationship goes through all sorts of hiccups and challenges, and it’s not likely to be an easy process. Some twin flames feel some physical symptoms as their energetic bodies adjust and attune to one another more and more, and it can put a strain on each of them and on their connection.

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Do Twin Flames Feel Each Other’s Pain?

Yes, undoubtedly so. The intense nature of the connection is a forever soul bond. It cannot be dissolved or diluted regardless of the physical or emotional distancing. We’ve looked before at specific examples of this, like feeling your twin flame crying, for example.

The twin flame separation phase often comes with major bouts of emotional pain for one of them, and while the other twin flame may not be aware of the source of their own discomfort, it will always mirror that of their twin directly or more subtly.

The soul bond is an energy bond that acts as a link. That link means a lot of energy exchange, and pain on an energetic level is information like everything else – it travels through that link. Even if they’re not both aware of it, it’s one of the reasons why they both feel instinctively driven to overcome the issues they are each going through. There’s a constant awareness of what the other one feels, whether it has become a conscious awareness or not yet.

Twin Flame Heart Chakra Pain

One of the most common types of pains associated with the twin flame journey when the flame is in separation mode is related to the heart chakra. Heart chakra pains can manifest in different ways but can feel like a physical pain in the chest or a constant weight.

But, as a twin flame, some of your energetic centers or chakras are more active, sensitive, and potentially vulnerable. That’s one of the reasons why it’s important to be aware of your twin’s status and do the work for yourself and the soul bond.

You may experience chest pains, heart palpitations, blood pressure oscillations, and even hand-related issues. Because energetically speaking, your hands are the extensions of your heart, and the heart chakra may exhibit its pain through hands- and arms-related pains. None of them should be severe in nature, of course, and medical specialists should always check them out before being seen as energetic or spiritual symptoms.

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How to Deal With Twin Flame Pain

Sadly, there’s nothing that I or anyone else can say to take this pain of being apart immediately.

The best way to cope with the various pains and issues you may encounter while on the twin flame path is to progress towards union. The more in tune you are with your energies, the stronger and better protected you both are.

Undergoing frequent energy healing and clearing also helps tremendously with dealing with some of the energetic debris you might face. Each of your paths and your soul bond will encompass many challenges and dynamic shifts. Practicing the best energetic hygiene can give you a world of good.

Meditating, praying, communing with your ancestors, and asking your spirit guides, animal totems, and guardian angels for help and support will offer you a lot of help. Each stage of your journey asks for a lot from you, and they’re all by your side so they can help and support you during this process. But they need you to open up to them and invite in their help before they can lovingly offer it.

Once you realize you’re on this journey, don’t be afraid to reach out to others in a similar situation. There are dedicated support groups, sites, and communities to offer you precisely the kind of information and help you need at every step. It’s important to see and feel that you’re never alone, even though you may be separating from your twin at some point.

How to Make This Progress

While there’s no easy A-B-C towards union, and every journey will differ, I suggest three main things.

  • Take your time and understand as much of the journey as you can. Try not to let your emotions call the shots always, and be honest with yourself about your feelings and experiences.
  • Work on your own spiritual growth – for example, focusing on a Kundalini awakening. This development will be triggered with your mirror, and you’ll both progress closer to the stage where the pain will end and the healing will begin.
  • Use the tarot to get a twin flame reading for guidance.

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Physical and Emotional Manifestations of Separation

When you experience separation from your twin flame, it can manifest itself in various physical and emotional ways.

These intense symptoms often reflect the deep, energetic connection shared between twin flames.

Coping with Physical Symptoms

Physical pain and sickness can emerge during the separation from your twin flame. You might feel this as a direct heart chakra pain, which manifests as an aching sensation in the chest or even heart palpitations. It’s not uncommon for this to coincide with episodes of fatigue, which can sap your energy levels. To cope:

  • Recognize the physical manifestations as a connection to your twin flame and as a signal from your body to pay attention to your well-being.
  • Practice chakra balancing techniques to alleviate discomfort, particularly focusing on the heart chakra.
  • Ensure to rest and take care of your body, allowing it to regain its equilibrium.

Navigating Emotional Turmoil

Separation can plunge you into profound emotional pain. This internal struggle might evoke feelings of anxiety or depression, reflecting the loss of a significant energetic bond. To navigate through this turmoil:

  • Acknowledge your emotions as a natural part of the separation process.
  • Engage in activities that center and ground you, such as meditation or journaling, which can provide an outlet for your feelings and help process them.
  • Remember that emotional pain is transient, and seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can offer comfort and guidance.
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Spiritual Practices for Healing

Healing from twin flame separation involves nurturing your spiritual well-being and raising your vibration. Precise practices like meditation, energy work, self-love, and forgiveness can significantly aid your healing journey.

Meditation and Energy Work

Meditation is a cornerstone in spiritual healing, providing a pathway to inner peace and higher states of consciousness. Daily meditation helps you to detach from the pain of separation and connect with your inner self, facilitating a deeper understanding of your twin flame journey.

Energy work, such as Reiki or Qi Gong, can also be instrumental in clearing blockages and raising your vibration, thus enabling you to align more harmoniously with your twin flame, even in physical absence.

The Role of Self-Love and Forgiveness

Self-love is fundamental in any form of healing. It empowers you to replenish your strength and recognize your worth beyond the physical union with your twin flame.

Forgiveness, both of yourself and your twin flame liberates you from past grievances, facilitating a process of releasing and moving forward. Intentional practices like shadow work can uncover aspects of yourself that need healing and forgiveness, thus contributing to your spiritual evolution and readiness for eventual reunion.

Acceptance plays a crucial role in moving forward. Recognize that the separation is just a phase of your twin flame journey, and hold onto the belief that you will reunite when the time is right. Gratitude for this period’s growth can transform pain into a meaningful experience. List the lessons you’ve learned:

  • Personal growth
  • Emotional resilience
  • Increased self-understanding

Lean on prayer or meditation; these practices can support your spiritual connection and remind you that your twin flame is with you in spirit, if not in physical presence. Maintaining a confident outlook will help bridge the emotional distance until reunion.

Remember, your paths are intertwined—hope and trust aren’t just spiritual concepts but tangible tools that can guide you through periods of separation. Keep moving forward with a clear vision of your journey’s potential and trust in the bond that ties you together.


After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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  • I have met my twin twice. We live on different sides of the country. I found out that she’s a the beginning stage of her awaking. After our second separation. She is having heart pains. I know she is at the beginning stages. And I’m beginning patent and holding back. Cause I know mot to force any awaking. I have to let her grow. But I do get worried with this going on to her.

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