Out of all the questions I’ve got over the years – this one is probably more common than you might think. What happens when the chaser moves on? Does the runner do anything for them to change their mind? Does the runner even notice?

As with most things in a twin flame journey – it depends. One of three things can happen:

  • In the worst case – neither the runner nor the chaser does anything else. Union fails in this lifetime, and you’ll both have to wait for another meeting in another lifetime to achieve union.
  • The twin flame chaser might move on for a while – but then eventually return to chasing.
  • The twin flame runner might notice and become the chaser.
twin flame runner moving on

In the journey of twin flames, the phase when the runner moves on can be a period filled with varied emotions and outcomes. This move might signify a pivotal shift in both twin flames’ lives, including the pursuit of personal development or new relationships.

Reasons Behind Moving On

Your twin flame runner might choose to move on for several reasons.

A sense of overwhelming doubt or frustration with the intensity of the twin flame connection often leads to a break. The runner may seek freedom from what they perceive as a confining commitment, or they might simply not be ready to handle the depth of the bond. In some instances, the development of a new relationship could be a catalyst, propelling the runner into a different direction in a search for peace and normalcy.

The Impact of Runner’s Abandonment on the Chaser

When your twin flame runner decides to move on, feelings of abandonment and loneliness may surge within you as the chaser.

The chaser might experience deep resentment towards the runner for giving up or grapple with the impression that a significant part of their own identity is missing. The separation can generate a profound impact, inciting a period of self-reflection and, occasionally, an impetus for personal growth.

Despite the pain, this turn of events does not always mean the end of the journey; for many, it becomes a transformative experience that contributes to their evolution.

Common Misconceptions

So, first up, it’s fairly normal for the runner and chaser to reverse. If the twin flame chaser decides it isn’t worth the pain, they might well start a relationship with another, and inevitably, they’ll either return to being the chaser – or they’ll become the runner, and the original runner will become the chaser. I get asked if the twin flame chaser can give up and what that means.

This happens – more often than you might think. The separation phase is long, demanding and emotionally bruising. And that’s when you know you’ve found your real mirror soul. If you include the chances of false twin flames it gets even worse.

I’ve covered the possibility of twin flame failure before – but I can sum it up in one line for you. It’s not technically possible for a twin flame journey to fail in the long run. This does not mean you’ll achieve union in this lifetime, however. This is why we can’t just sit back and wait for the universe to sort things out for us.

Understanding what is going to happen here can be tough. There are no hard-set rules for this journey, which means the advice you get from anyone else (including me) is a general signpost at best.

If you want to look at your journey in a little more detail, tell me about your experience so far and get a twin flame reading.

I Understand Why You Would Move On

I’ve been through my own time flame separation phase, and I’ve spoken to hundreds of people who have gone through it as well. I completely get why you feel like you want to move on.

It’s not your fault. It’s not a reflection on you, your twin, and it doesn’t mean that you haven’t found your true twin flame or that you won’t achieve union in this lifetime.

It’s a fairly common part of an emotionally and spiritually brutal phase in the journey. In some ways, it’s good you question the connection. If we took every strong connection as a sign we need to devote our lives to someone without question – we’d get hurt a lot more often by false twin flames or infatuations.

Does My Twin Flame Runner Miss Me?

This is one question on twin flames I can answer with 100% certainty regardless of who it is.


I’ve spoken about twin flame telepathy before, and the constant connection both mirror souls have with each other before they even meet. Whether they’re consciously aware of it or not – the twin flame runner does miss you. There are signs when they’re thinking about you; sometimes, it’s the moment you move on that they’ll switch and begin chasing you.

Sometimes it takes a little longer.

Sometimes, it won’t even happen in this lifetime.

But they do miss you. In the same way, you’ll still miss them even if you do genuinely move on.

Understanding the Twin Flame Runner Stage

If they’re going to miss me and potentially become the chaser the moment I move on – why don’t they just awaken now and save us both the pain?

Ah. If only it was this easy. But at least the answer can be summed up – soul shock.

It’s important to remember that the runner isn’t trying to hurt either of you. They’re not actually trying to do anything. They don’t fully understand what’s going on and they’re not spiritually awoken enough to be able to handle this level of connection yet. It can be tough to accept as the chaser (trust me – I’ve been there).

Maybe (and this is just a maybe because I don’t know your current situation) you’re not real twin flames, and while this stage is painful at the moment, it’s better for you both in the long run.

I do wish I had a better answer for you here.

Sadly, twin flame journies are a great many things, but easy is not one of them. There’s no easy answer or way to know if the twin flame runner misses you because they might not even know themselves. It really depends on how spiritually awoken they are.

Keep in mind just because they don’t appear to miss you now doesn’t mean they don’t or they won’t in the future.

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After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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