Alright, strap in, folks, because this is a big one. One of the most frequent questions we get asked is what happens when twin flames are already married to someone else.

  • If your twin flame married someone else, are they not really your twin?
  • Does it mean you’re not going to reach union?
  • What can (or should) you do about it?
  • What if you’re the one already married?
  • What if you’re both married?

What’s the right thing to do? Is there even a right in this situation?

I’ve seen people take various stances on this topic, and to be absolutely clear, right from the start, this is coming from someone who does respect marriage. I’ve also spoken to literally thousands of people at various stages of a twin flame journey, and many of them have (or previously have) struggled with this exact issue.

It’s why I’m very clear that these can be murky waters, and you have to be very careful so that nobody gets hurt. There are steps you need to take to be 100% crystal clear that you’re dealing with a true twin flame before making any decisions that are going to cause harm to anyone.

This all said – I do believe a twin flame connection is a top priority and a key part of our spiritual journey. When married to a false twin flame and you know you’ve met your mirror soul, I do think it takes priority.

Why Twin Flames Meet Later in Life After Marriage?

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It’s a complete myth that everyone is going to reach union with their twin flame (if nothing else, not everyone has a twin flame) in this lifetime; despite what social media would lead you to believe within the twin flame journey blogosphere, most marriages are not twin flames.

This doesn’t mean that every marriage is bad. I’ve covered types of false twin flames before, but you can absolutely have a happy life with a soulmate, which happens to many people.

Social pressures are not equipped to deal with mirror souls because most of us are just not there yet. We’re not spiritually ready to understand this type of connection, so very few are really going to understand what’s going on. If you try and explain it, they’ll probably assume you’re talking about soulmates, and most people assume married couples consider the other their soulmate.

We know that a real soulmate is actually something very different. While it’s not uncommon for someone to marry a soulmate, it’s not on the same level as a twin flame connection.

The problem arises when you do meet your twin flame after this stage.

I hear many twin flame stories who struggle with exactly this. Maybe your twin flame is married long before you ever meet them, or perhaps they marry during a long separation stage. I’ve seen plenty of instances of both, and it happens.

It’s painful for everyone involved, but it does happen. Sadly, nobody said the twin flame experience was going to be an easy path, and the road to that unconditional love can have a few bumps on it.

Whether it’s your twin flame dating someone else or your twin flame is married with kids, the actual cause is exactly the same.

You’ve both met when you’re just not (yet) ready for union.

It’s painful, but it’s part of the journey and the twin flame experience.

What to Do When Your Twin Flame is With Someone Else

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There is no easy answer to dealing with your twin flame being married already.

Be SURE The Other Person Is Your Twin Flame

This is step one. Always.

There’s no point chasing a twin flame union with someone else (and trust me, false twin flames are more common than you’re probably thinking).

I talk about false twin flames all the time, and for good reason. Be sure this is the real thing before you consider doing anything else. I always say if in doubt – there is no doubt. If you really can’t tell, then consider getting a twin flame reading.

It’s extremely rare to find your twin flame, which means if it has, you need to cling to that connection, but it’s also less likely than you might think, and you don’t want to hurt anyone for no good reason.

Talk To Your Twin Flame About It

This wouldn’t normally be a comfortable topic, but in a twin flame connection, no topic should be off-limits. If you’re not able to talk about it, then it’s not a twin flame connection, and that makes the conversation easier.

Don’t drag anyone else into the conversation before you’ve had a chance to talk to your twin flame and cover everything. Your twin flame might have their own doubts, and these need to be talked about. They might not be ready yet – especially if your path hasn’t included a separation phase before. They might not be ready for the same connection as you are.

When contemplating sharing your emotions, prioritize honest communication. Unveiling your sentiments can be cathartic, aiding in your peace of mind. However, assess the impact it may have on the other person. Will your declaration bring them joy or merely add to their stress?

Understand that what you perceive as love might not be mutual. If your affections are one-sided, recognizing this truth is crucial. Confiding in them may not alter their perception, but it lets you pursue closure and progress in your personal journey.

Remember, dialogue is a two-way street; it should never be about unloading your feelings without regard for the receiver’s situation.

Talking to the Other Person

I’m not going to write a guide on this. There’s no good way to have this conversation.

Most of us don’t understand higher-dimensional relationships. We’re just not at that stage of our own journeys yet, so they’re likely not going to understand what you’re talking about.

Be honest, but be kind.

Talk to them when the time is right, and don’t involve your twin flame in that conversation. This is between you and the other person for now.

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Focusing On Yourself

As with any kind of separation stage in the twin flame journey, the answer is very rarely anything to do with them or anyone else for that matter. Even in cases where twin flames marry a false flame, the answer is to focus on self-love.

This means the way forward is often to focus on yourself. Work towards your own goals, your spiritual path, being truthful with yourself and about what you want. If your goal is reaching twin flame union this lifetime, then this is probably the best thing you can do for both yourself and your twin.

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Appreciate the Benefits

Even during the tougher stages, the twin flame journey is still a blessing.

Recognize the unique connection you share with your twin flame. Meeting them is a rarity and signifies a profound bond. Remember, the presence of your twin flame in your life can lead to personal growth and the discovery of new aspects within yourself. Attraction between twin flames is about more than physical presence; it’s about the alignment and resonance of your very beings.

As you interact with your twin flame, your inner energies naturally rearrange, offering a deeper introspection and a clearer understanding of your true self. Even a single meeting can inspire a sense of completeness and belonging independent of marital status.

Embrace the value this connection brings to your life. Marital bonds may symbolize a union, but your journey with your twin flame transcends conventional pathways. It enriches you, granting an inner fullness that many strive to find.

Trust that the Process

When rare coincidences occur in your life, consider them subtle guidance from the universe. We often hear twin flames say trust the process and this doesn’t change based on external factors.

It’s a misconception that the universe’s sole role is to unite you with your twin flame. Life’s journey encompasses much more, and it doesn’t halt when certain connections don’t come to fruition. There is work to be done in the meantime.

Pay attention to the signals around you; the universe communicates through synchronicities and divine timing. These signs are there to lead you, and understanding them can strengthen your spiritual connection.

Be Genuine Friends While You Wait

Embrace the deep, fulfilling harmony you share and let it lay the groundwork for a true best friendship. Friendship injects fun, laughter, and authentic interaction into life—elements sometimes absent in romantic relationships.

And I don’t just mean pretending to be friends while you wait for it to become more. This isn’t embracing what the twin flame journey really requires.

Enjoy the ease of genuine friendship without the anxiety of romantic expectations. There’s no fear of abandonment or infidelity; instead, you can be unreserved and open.

When in each other’s company, keep a clear boundary against flirtation or seductive dialogue. Any hint of romance could taint the purity of your bond, particularly since they are committed elsewhere. Be there for the joy of shared experiences, free from any guilt.

If maintaining a close friendship proves to be too painful due to your intense connection, it’s wise to recognize your limits. Putting space between yourself and them may be necessary to preserve your well-being.

If Your Twin Flame Is Married, Does That Mean Failure?

The short answer here is maybe.

You’ll hear people tell you that twin flame failure is never possible, but if you look around you at the people in your life, it’s not hard to see how rare a twin flame connection really is. In the long run, a twin flame journey is destined for success over multiple lifetimes, but there’s no guarantee that you’ll reach a twin flame union in this lifetime.

That said.

A married twin flame does not immediately mean that you’re not going to reach a twin flame union. I’ve heard from people who are getting married, already married as well as people who have already been divorced before finally meeting their twin and beginning this journey.

If your twin flame is married, it doesn’t mean you won’t reach union, but it does mean you’re going to have to tread carefully not to hurt someone.

If you’re the one who is married to someone then you’re going to have to be brutally honest with yourself about what you truly want and incredibly careful that you’re not just dealing with a false twin flame.

Can Twin Flames Get Married?

I’ve looked specifically at do twin flames marry (and why) already, so we don’t need to get too deep into that one.

The short answer is yes. Absolutely.

Twin flame relationships don’t need marriage, but I’ve heard of many, many relationships that just want to share their love with the world, and the easiest way to do that is by getting married. Twin flames marriage usually involves some specific vows about the journey together but the reality is most people haven’t even heard of a twin flame in this lifetime.

You’ll understand when you’ve reached that point, but at that stage, twin flames don’t need anything else to keep them together. A twin flame marriage is just a way to share their love with the world, who will understand marriage better than union.


After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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  • Thank you Chris for your guide, it has helped me to understand twin flames connection in marriages.
    I’m divorced and know with all my heart and soul that I have met my twin flame almost twenty years ago who is married, but respect his marriage.
    I have to say it’s one of the most painful experience of my life, although very painful I’m slowly coming to terms with the fact that I may not be reunited with him in this life.

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