Usually, the more spiritually awakened ones are the twin flame chasers, and they’re more likely to be doing the research, so there’s a lot of information online for chasers. Unluckily, it’s hard to know what to listen to, and there’s a lot of disagreement over some areas.

Some general advice most people can agree on:

  1. Try to relax and trust in the journey. I know, I know. That’s easier said than done.
  2. Accept that there are likely going to be some tough times.
  3. Focus on your own personal growth.
twin flame runner and chaser

Don’t worry. We are going to look at some more in-depth advice, but there’s a reason this stuff is commonly repeated. It’s good advice regardless of where you are in your twin flame journey.

This kind of advice is certainly easier said than done. The chaser is subjected to some serious emotional and spiritual abuse, so being told to ‘just relax’ isn’t always the most helpful. I know. Taking the time to improve your knowledge about the twin flame journey helps, though.

The more you understand, the more you’ll be prepared to handle everything the journey throws at you – including this separation phase.

So, What the Hell Do You Do as the Chaser?

The twin flame runner can get used to the idea of the chaser always following. But what if they move on?

constantly tell people that the twin flame runner has a tough time during the separation phase, although it doesn’t seem that way to the chaser. I constantly drill this point home because the chaser commonly feels like they’re in this alone. The truth is both sides are feeling it – the difference is only the twin flame chaser understands why.

Twin flame soul shock is a powerful experience. It is like nothing else you will ever feel in your life, but it’s also what commonly sends the runner into the separation phase. They don’t understand what the hell is going on, and these feelings are very often going to overwhelm them.

The chaser is the more spiritually awoken twin. In general, the runner doesn’t know what a twin flame is, or they know what a twin flame relationship is and either don’t believe in it or don’t believe they’re really in one.

I need to stress this here. It’s not a reflection on you, your relationship or in any way a negative thing. The separation phase is common. It’s brutal and painful, and it can feel like an eternity, but it’s incredibly common. Not every twin flame relationship is going to have a separation phase (some skip it entirely), but it’s important that you understand it really doesn’t matter, and it’s all part of the journey.

I do twin flame readings for any part of the journey, but there is a reason so many people choose to get help during this stage. It’s one of the hardest to go through. If a twin flame union fails in a lifetime after the initial meeting – it’s usually at this stage.

It might be painful. Scratch that. I know it’s painful, but it’s all part of the journey for most of us when we’re lucky enough to meet our twin flame.

twin flame chasing

Challenges Faced by the Chaser

Emotional Pain: The chaser often confronts significant emotional pain, dealing with not only their own emotions but also the reflections from their twin flame. This can result in a sense of incompleteness or emptiness when apart from your twin flame.

Unreciprocated Efforts: At times, your dedication might not be met with the same enthusiasm by the runner. This can lead to feelings of frustration or being misunderstood, especially when your twin flame seems to retreat or disconnect.

  • Patience and Balance: Cultivating patience is a challenge, as you may feel an urgency to resolve the separation. Striving for balance becomes key, knowing when to give space and when to draw closer to your twin flame.
  • Managing Expectations: You must navigate the delicate task of managing your expectations without losing hope. It’s important to remain realistic about the journey, which may require significant personal growth from you and your twin flame before harmony can truly be achieved.

Persistence: As a twin flame chaser, you embody determination. You’re inclined to pursue the runner, often driven by a profound inner feeling that the connection is worth the effort. Your perseverance is grounded in the belief that the relationship transcends ordinary love.

Emotional Awareness: You’re likely to be the more awakened twin, deeply in tune with the emotional undercurrents of the bond. This heightened sensitivity enables you to navigate the relationship with empathy and a solid sense of self-awareness.

  • Intense Feelings: Your experience of love is marked by intensity, feeling both the highs and lows more deeply. You might face emotional turmoil, yet your commitment to the relationship doesn’t waver.
  • Self-improvement: Recognizing the mirror nature of your twin flame, you engage in self-work, aiming to evolve both spiritually and emotionally for the sake of the union.
twin flame chaser sequence

I know some people have an issue with the whole idea of even referring to it as a runner and chaser. It makes it seem like the chaser is doing all the hard work (although it can always seem like that when you are the chaser).

Some people prefer to think of it as the twin flame leader or anchor – but let’s remove ego from the discussion and keep using chaser for the moment.

Being the chaser is tough. Trust me, I get it. I’ve been there. But it really is all about believing in the journey. We recently looked at whether it is possible for a twin flame journey to really fail, and it’s almost always the chaser asking this question.

Understand the Twin Flame Runner

In the journey of twin flames, the runner plays a pivotal role that often puzzles and challenges their counterpart—the chaser.

Understanding the Runner’s Perspective

In your twin flame relationship, when you encounter the runner, it’s essential to understand they’re often acting out of a deep-seated fear. The runner twin flame may exhibit a strong fear of intimacy or a subconscious dread of the profound connection you share.

This fear typically stems from past traumas or a lack of self-worth, leading them to flee from the relationship. They contend with a constant internal battle, balancing the urge to run from the intensity of the twin flame bond with the inherent pull towards their counterpart.

Overcoming Fear and Doubt

To overcome the hurdles of doubt and fear, the twin flame runner must embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing. This path often involves confronting personal issues and fears that have been long buried. Doubt can be a significant obstacle, but it is not insurmountable.

With time and introspection, the runner may gradually begin to understand the value of the twin flame connection, learning to embrace it rather than flee from it. The process is individual and cannot be rushed, requiring patience and compassion from both the runner and the chaser.

Navigating Twin Flame Separation

During the twin flame separation stage, you may encounter deep emotional pain and confusion. It is a pivotal time for healing and personal growth, laying the groundwork for possible future reunion.

Coping with Pain and Confusion

Pain and confusion are prevalent emotions during twin flame separation. It’s important to:

  • Acknowledge your feelings without judgment
  • Seek mental health support if the pain feels overwhelming
  • Establish a routine to ground yourself
  • Connect with supportive friends or communities

Remember that confusion often stems from unmet expectations. Realign your perspective by understanding that separation is not the end but a phase in your journey.

twin flame chaser

Healing and Personal Development

Separation is a crucial period for healing and personal growth. Focus on:

  • Identifying and addressing personal issues that may have surfaced
  • Investing time in hobbies or activities that enhance your well-being
  • Setting goals for your own development, independent of your twin flame
  • Practicing self-care and self-love to build a stronger sense of self

Embrace this stage as an opportunity to transform and prepare for any potential future with or without your twin flame.

Building Trust and Intimacy

Trust is the bedrock of any twin flame union. You’ll find that as you embark on this journey, your experiences are designed to bring raw emotions to the surface, making honesty a necessity.

Communication is key, and you should strive for complete transparency with your twin flame. This openness allows for the development of a profound intimacy, where you share your innermost selves. Through reflection and shared experiences, you build an unshakeable foundation that allows this unique bond to mature.

Achieving Harmony and Balance

Harmony and balance are not only goals but also the natural outcomes of a successful twin flame relationship. You must accept and celebrate your differences while also finding common ground.

Balance implies giving and taking in equal measure, transcending individual egos for the sake of the union. Reflection plays an integral part in understanding not just your twin flame’s inner world but also your own. This mirroring effect is essential, as it paves the way to a synchronicity that resonates with the purpose of your journey together.

Twin Flame Chaser Surrender

I know it can feel hopeless, and I’ve had more than a few questions about surrendering as the chaser. I’ve written already about twin flame failure before, but what happens if the chaser twin just lets go?

In short – it doesn’t matter.

The separation phase commonly includes a period where both twins do their best to avoid or ignore each other. They’ll lie to each other and even themselves. If the chaser surrenders, it’s just part of the journey. It isn’t going to be permanent because a twin flame journey can’t actually fail.

If you really feel like quitting, then I understand. Trust me. I’ve been there.

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After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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