Where there’s a twin flame journey, there’s almost always a twin flame runner. The separation stage is possibly one of the hardest emotionally, spiritually and sometimes even physically.

While you’re going through all of this, trying to understand the twin flame runner’s feelings can be hard. Why are they finding this so easy? Do they not feel the same way as you? Why don’t they see what you see already?

Most of the stories and articles we write here focus on the chaser because they tend to be the more spiritually awoken twin, and (generally) that’s who our readers are. Understanding how the runner twin feels is important in making a separation stage easier for both of you, however, so it can be worth considering.

The feelings the runner is experiencing are just as valid as our own. Even if we can’t understand why they’re running, we need to understand that this is not necessarily easier for them just because they’re running.

Twin Flame Runners: Misunderstood or Intentionally Distant?

Twin flame runners may appear indifferent or even cold, but often what drives them away is not a lack of love or connection. Indeed, the union between twin flames can be intense, with a profound level of connection that, paradoxically, can instill fear rather than trust. When your twin flame ignores this bond, it’s not necessarily a reflection of their carelessness.

  • Fear and Protection: Runners might be acting out of a subconscious need to shield themselves and you from perceived unworthiness or potential hurt.
  • Patience and Understanding: Your journey may require a waiting period, a time for both to grow, possibly making the unity stronger in the long run.

In twin flame dynamics, the chaser may feel abandoned, yet the runner’s behavior doesn’t always signify a lack of passion or belief in the connection. Their actions could be a complicated coping mechanism.

Understanding the hidden motives of a twin flame runner’s heart calls for immense trust and patience, as what seems like ignoring the relationship might actually be a silent call for help or time to heal.

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What the Twin Flame Runner Experiences

We’ve covered soul shock before, but if this phrase is new to you, we can boil it all down into one line.

Your twin flame runner is scared. This is like the heartbreak of a breakup – on steroids.

It’s perfectly normal to react to their behavior with confusion, disbelief, and even anger, but they’re not trying to harm you. Soul shock is a powerful obstacle on almost every twin flame journey and isn’t easy for either of you.

While you (as you’re here) know enough about the journey to use resources and reach out to people for help dealing with soul shock – the twin flame runner doesn’t have this. They’re very much feeling alone and in the dark, not knowing where this pain is coming from or what to do about it.

Essentially, this is why they run. Their knee-jerk reaction is to try and get away.

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Speaking as someone who used to consider himself a firm cynic when it came to anything like twin flames – soul shock is the perfect term for what the twin flame runners feelings. People give it different names, but it really boils down to confusion. When it hits you – you know it.

The runner is (usually) the one who either doesn’t know anything about twin flames or doesn’t believe (or isn’t sure) that this is actually it. The soul shock affects both the chaser and runner initially with the intensity of their connection, but it’s enough to cause fear and confusion, which causes the runner to… well, run.

The journey of the twin flame often includes a phase where one partner, known as the runner, feels overwhelming pressure to withdraw from the intense connection. If you find yourself in the role of the runner, you might be grappling with a deep-rooted fear of rejection and a sense of being unworthy of the love you’ve encountered. Your departure from the relationship isn’t merely a retreat from your other half but stems from an intrinsic need to confront and heal personal wounds.

As a runner, the intensity of emotions can be daunting, leading to a state of overwhelm and the desire to escape. You aren’t devoid of caring; in fact, you may fear causing pain or hurting your twin flame through your own unresolved issues. The separation, while painful, allows you to engage in shadow work and address the parts of yourself that may not be ready for the commitment and changes that this profound spiritual path demands.

It is not uncommon for you, as the runner, to experience regret following the initial rejection. The twin flame awakening can be a catalyst for an internal revolution, confronting intense emotions and feelings of inadequacy. Yet this separation is an essential growth experience, clearing the path for eventual reconnection with greater self-awareness and maturity. During this period, you may silently wish to reconcile the relationship, yet feel it necessary to first achieve personal growth and readiness.

Dealing With This Stage

Both twins struggle with this stage in different ways. The quicker you can draw it to a close the quicker you can save both of you time and pain. It could be that one (or both) of you still have some things to work out. It should be time for you both to reach the next stage, and it’s just a waiting game.

Because journeys vary so much, a twin flame reading can help pinpoint exactly where you are and where you need to be by looking at your path rather than general knowledge of twin flames. It doesn’t hurt to further your general knowledge either, however, and understanding the stages and watching out for signs like twin flame telepathy is also important.

Possible Regrets of a Twin Flame Runner

Twin flame runners may experience a sense of regret once they reflect on the emotional impact of their actions on both themselves and their partner. Key reasons for regret can stem from:

  • Recognition of the pain caused to their twin flame.
  • Awareness that avoidance might have delayed their personal growth.
  • Understanding the missed opportunities for deep emotional experiences.

Behavior Changes in Twin Flame Runners Facing Their Emotions

Upon confronting their feelings, twin flame runners might exhibit several behavioral changes:

  • Increase in communication and openness with their twin flame.
  • Actions that demonstrate a desire for reconciliation or closeness.
  • Periods of introspection and heightened emotional sensitivity.

Does the Twin Flame Runner Regret This?

I’ve spoken to many people before and after the union phase of their twin flame journey. Honestly, I can’t think of a single time when I would say a twin flame runner honestly regrets that period.

They wouldn’t have enjoyed it while it was happening, and looking back, they would probably have rather had more time together; however, that phase was all part of their journey. Trust me. I understand this stage of the journey sucks for the chaser. It isn’t a picnic for the runner either, remember – but it’s not something either of you is going to regret in the future.

It’s all part of the journey of how you got from where you are now – to a union.

The truth is they’re trying to help you when they run. They (subconsciously) might feel like you’re not ready yet.

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Spiritual people (the ones more likely to be reading up on the idea of twin flames, for example) tend to be the chasers, which explains why most of the guides and stories are from their point of view. We’ve already looked at the twin flame separation stage in some detail – more than a few times.

Their feelings that the twin flame runner experiences are just as valid and just as important. They’re not trying to hurt you. Generally, they don’t even understand their feelings or their decisions, and it’s purely the subconscious at the steering wheel.

I often see people struggling with feelings of hurt and resentment. It’s understandable but this kind of negative baggage is going to slow down your journey to be together. I generally suggest trying to see it from their point of view, which must be scary, if you think about it. After all, they are still experiencing all the life-changing effects of the twin flame relationship, yet they don’t fully understand or believe in the whole process.

The Duality of Twin Flames

It’s hard to understand what the twin flame runner is thinking. I know firsthand exactly what it takes, but remember they’re hiding their feelings and emotions not just from you but from themselves as well. It’s hard to cover so many different journeys in just one post and there are an unlimited number of different variations that might be coming into play with your journey. Try to take as much time as possible to understand what’s going on and watch for signs and similarities in your situation.

Twin flame duality is not a topic that a lot of people talk about. With a true twin flame, this brings in the polarity of the physical world largely ego-driven through no fault of our own and the duality of their higher spiritual self. Every twin flame is one-half of a soul, and this polarity will strongly affect you both.

This is not to say that the twin flame runner is being led by their ego and that they only care about themselves (we’re trying to understand them here, remember?) and trying to label it so simply does you both a disservice. What this really means is that the twin flame runner is probably ignoring their higher spiritual self. This is commonly why the twin flame chaser is the more spiritually awoken one, but with a true union, you’ll push each other to be better.


After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

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  • I’ve read hundreds of twin flame posts, especially about the runner perspective, but you have constructed your thoughts into words in such an eloquent manner. This is a no BS post. It’s real. Real twin flames can resonate with a frequency such as yours. Thank you for sharing your light and your truth!

  • Yes I feel like I met my twin flame it was a feeling in connection I never felt before, it was like we where boyfriend and girlfriend already very comfortable around each other, easy to talk to and then things went left he start making excuse and other stuff but when I felt when he was lying I knew it, it was like my intuition kick in

  • I’m the runner. Now I know it but for a long time I’d been thinking I was the chaser. I’ll try to answer some questions. I don’t regret the time we are separated I’m not happy either but it’s healing me and preparing for what happens. I wasn’t ready for the energy, for connection, for all I’ve got. I didn’t understand my feelings and the power of them and neither why I am running if I want to be so close. Now when I’m aware of what happens in my life and who we are I don’t want to run anymore. I’m ready!!!

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