Why is one person the awakened twin flame? Which twin knows first and why?

It can be tough when you’re the awakened twin flame, and the other doesn’t seem to have a clue about the journey you’re on. We talk a lot about what you should do at various stages and dive deeper into some of the specifics, but I seem to get asked why this happens an awful lot. It worries me a little that this comes up so often because I think it’s where many people get easily stuck in their journey.

twin flame awakening

On some level, both twin flames know exactly what’s going on in their journey, but that isn’t always reflected in the 3D. One person is the awakened twin flame because they’ve chosen to be before either of you started this lifetime. All this was already planned out between you and your twin on the 5D.

In the twin flame couple, one awakens much ahead of the other. This is in the Divine Plan, which both of you agreed upon long before you ever met in the 3D. Eventually, both of you are highly spiritually evolved, but sometimes it can take some time for a runner to reach their spiritual evolution.

What to Do When You’re the Awakened Twin Flame

So what do you do when you’re the awakened twin, and it feels like they don’t (or won’t) understand the journey you’re on together?

First of all – accept that it’s going to be frustrating because it is. There are absolutely things you can do to help both you (and your twin) further your journey together, but it’s not going to be an overnight process, I’m afraid. Twin flame healing is the only path to a true union, and no magic button will do this for you.

Often, when one twin is awakened, they’re going to be far more aware of the journey. This is partly a good thing (one of you needs to be in the driving seat), but this often comes with the emotional, spiritual, and sometimes physical pain of feeling cut off from the other part of your soul. It can be frustrating that they don’t seem to understand, and you lack the support you want during one of the most painful stages of the journey.

I’ve covered the twin flame runner awakening before and the signs you can look for when it’s happening but (and this is important): Don’t fall into the trap of just waiting for it to happen. This is the biggest mistake I see from people on the twin flame journey (which I often speak to).

If you’re feeling completely stuck on your journey, then take a few minutes to tell me about your journey and get a twin flame reading.

twin flame runner awakening

Can You Make Them Awaken?

The question I usually hear now is, can I awaken my twin flame?

Often in the twin flame community, we have one person who considers themselves the awakened one, and they’re just waiting for their mirror soul to ‘wake up’. This is why I don’t like the terms ‘awakened’ or ‘un-awakened’. Whether you want to call it a twin flame journey or not, whether you know what even is, it doesn’t (really) matter.

awakening twin flames

Two people can reach union together without ever hearing the words, and I’ve no doubt it’s happened.

In fact, neither you nor your twin have much control over the experience or journey at the early stages. Your higher selves are the ones calling the shot and not the conscious you are currently reading this. There are things you can do to help things along (read that guide on healing), but they’re rarely what you’re expecting, and it’s almost always about focusing inward and nothing about them at all.

As twin flames and mirror souls, you essentially have an agreement together. You’ve agreed to meet in this lifetime in the 3D, and your higher selves are fully aware of what this journey entails.

That doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. It doesn’t mean the pain you’re feeling is invalid or you don’t have the right to feel pain during the tough stages. It does mean there’s a reason you’re going through it, however. The journey is to prepare the two of you to be something more. Often, this difficult stage is part of that journey.

Your twin is not acting this way because they’re afraid. It doesn’t mean they’re a false twin flame or your twin flame journey will fail.

It simply means you still have work to do. You’ve both agreed you need to heal old wounds and this is what it will take to get there. I know this is going to sound harsh, and it’s often not what you want to hear, but this is what gets you unstuck.

Don’t worry about your twin not getting it or doing the wrong thing. If your twin isn’t ready – it also means you’re not ready either. The sooner you can accept this – the sooner you can move beyond this stage.

Advice on Moving Forward

Step 1 of 3

  • Tell me about your journey so far. This will be used to put together a twin flame reading to help steer your path but won't be shared or published.

  • Your Details

  • MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • (This is where we'll send your reading. Just make sure you agree to our privacy policy).

Twin Flame Roles

You’ll hear people disagree over the nature of twin flame roles (and the use of the roles themselves). I use the common labels because it helps people understand what I’m talking about, but we often forget the important thing.

These roles change.

There are no hard-set rules for your journey. Not every journey will have a runner or a chaser, and these roles can absolutely change over time. Just because you’re currently the ‘awakened’ twin and feel like you’re doing all the hard work, that doesn’t mean this is the way it’s going to stay.

I speak to a lot of people on their journey. I’d hazard a guess and say more than most. By forgetting these labels and focusing on yourself, focusing on healing, and forwarding your journey, you’ll forget about trying to work out who has what role. Often doing this, you won’t even notice when it reverses and your twin is the one trying to figure out why you don’t “get it”.

You’ll both see triggers, mirroring and twin flame number patterns. Allow these external signs to guide you because they’re messages from your own 5D selves and the universe. Don’t allow labels and other people’s opinions to tell you how your journey can or should be working.

Signs and Stages of Twin Flame Awakening

In the journey of twin flame connections, awakening is a pivotal phase manifesting through various signs and stages. Noticing these can affirm the deepening of this profound bond.

Synchronicities and Intuition

Synchronicities serve as guideposts during a twin flame awakening, with recurring numbers or meaningful coincidences becoming frequent.

Your intuition may heighten, giving you an unexplained certainty about paths to take or decisions that align with your twin flame journey.

awakened twin flames

Visions and Psychic Abilities

An awakening often heralds the onset of vivid and relevant visions to you and your twin flame’s journey. Psychic abilities may emerge, such as telepathy, where you sense your twin flame’s thoughts or emotions despite the distance.

Emotional and Energy Shifts

You might experience emotional upheaval, including intense mood swings or even anxiety or panic attacks. These are signs of energy shifts, clearing blockages and aligning your vibrational frequency with your twin flame.

Spiritual Growth of Awakening

In twin flame relationships, spiritual growth and personal development are essential parts of the journey. These processes involve understanding yourself deeply, exploring various facets of your personality, and expanding your consciousness.

Meditation and Inner Peace

Meditation is a foundational practice for cultivating inner peace and enhancing personal growth. Meditating regularly strengthens your connection with your inner self and can experience a reduction in stress and an increase in clarity.

This habit helps in developing a tranquil mind, which is crucial for navigating the intense emotions that often accompany the twin flame connection.

Creativity and Self-Expression

Your creativity is a powerful means of self-expression and intricately linked to your spiritual growth. Engaging in creative activities allows you to explore your emotions, thoughts, and experiences on a deeper level.

By channeling your energy into creative endeavors, you foster personal development and enhance your ability to communicate with your twin flame on a soulful plane.

Kundalini Awakening

Kundalini awakening can be an intense and transformative experience that often emerges within the twin flame journey. This energetic awakening leads to increased self-awareness, higher states of consciousness, and a profound sense of connection with the universe.

You may experience a range of physical, emotional, and spiritual changes as your Kundalini energy rises, further catalyzing your growth path.


After struggling with my own twin flame journey for many years I became (I'll say it) almost obsessed with the twin flame journey and this path of self-discovery and improvement.

Now after sharing the stories of thousands of people going through their own journey I want to share my own thoughts and the patterns I see on twin flames.

I'm wary of speaking in absolutes on a subject like this. There's too much that any of us will really ever *know* (at least in this lifetime) so my opinions are based on my experience and the experience of those I speak to and who share their stories with me.

There are no two journeys that are ever going to be entirely alike but when you see enough of them, you do see definite patterns emerge.

View all posts
Twin Flame Reading Session