We’ll get into why a little later on but twin flame healing is one of the most important and still least talked about parts of the whole journey. So what is it, why is it so important and how can you begin your twin flame healing process?
The entire purpose of a twin flame journey is healing. Both you and your twin have to heal past and inner pain before you’ll be able to reach union.
Truly understanding the twin flame healing process is the difference between endlessly hanging around waiting for them to ‘figure it out’ and actually taking action to do what you need to do to take that next step together.
The Warning: Your Journey is Stuck Without Healing
If you’ve spent any time looking into the twin flame journey you can’t have missed the pattern of becoming stuck in your journey.
- Constantly questioning why your twin flame doesn’t get it. Why they’re still in a karmic relationship with someone else.
- Constantly dealing with the physical and emotional pain of being apart.
- Constantly looking for readings or external guidance (yes, even ones from me) without ever actually doing anything to take steps in the right direction.
- Constantly looking to a third party twin flame healer to do the work for you.
I know how painful separation phases can be. I know from first-hand experience and the literal thousands of people I’ve heard from on different stages of this journey.
But you won’t escape this pattern of just waiting if you don’t take accountability for your own healing.
And this pattern of becoming stuck and falling into the routine of just waiting and doing nothing drives me mad. I can completely sympathize with the pain you’re dealing with but that doesn’t let you off the hook.
Do you really want to reach union with your twin? Then hear me out.
Why This Isn’t Talked About
I’m obviously not the only person talking about the twin flame healing process but I do spend a lot of time talking to people about twin flames and I see the same patterns over and over again.
There’s a huge trend to do one of two things.
- Only focus on the positive benefits of a twin flame connection.
- Only talk about the struggle ad heartache of a twin flame journey.
Sure, this kind of unconditional love is absolutely worth talking about but we can’t just gloss over the difficult parts along the way. And that’s exactly why this part of the twin flame process is so commonly ignored. Because it’s difficult.
I’ve brought up twin flame healing in the past and I know for a fact that most people don’t want to hear it. Nobody likes being told there’s hard work to be done.
Being in that position sucks. The only way I can truly help is to get you to understand how important this healing is to your twin flame journey and get you to take it seriously. When people immediately switch off (and I can see from the stats on this page some only do skim this far and go looking for an easy answer) you’re going to remain stuck in this endless loop.
There’s no moving on to the twin flame union unless you understand this simple idea. If you’re in separation, you’ve healing to do.
If you’re still with me, I’m glad. The advice I give you is going to be hard, damn work but we just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
The How: Healing a Twin Flame Connection
If you’ve skipped this far down please make sure you’ve read the section above. It’s important for both you and your twin’s sake.
Looking to the Long Term
A twin flame separation does not have a set time limit. Some journeys may only experience it once while, for others, it might happen multiple times. It might last days or decades.
While it can be painful the simple truth is it will continue to happen until you’re both ready.
And we have to look at the long term. Every time we take a step back and fall into old patterns we’re delaying the journey even more. Doubt is a common part of the path you’re on but you need to trust the process and continue your focus long term if you ever hope to make it through.
Here’s the thing nobody says often enough. The twin flame journey isn’t easy.
Well, that’s partly a lie. In some ways, it’ll be the easiest thing you’ve ever done and looking back at all the doubts and struggles I went through in the earlier stages there’s no question in my mind I made the right choices.
But nobody can do the twin flame process for you. Your twin (at least their higher self) can certainly help but considering they’re just the other half of your soul I stand by that statement – nobody else can do it for you.
This kind of connection and unconditional love is worth the work – but we have to look at the entire process and not just ‘how to do I get my runner twin flame to phone me’.
Part of this healing is about looking beyond the current pain and hurt. We need to let go and surrender ourselves.
Finding Unconditional Love – Within
Sure, there is nothing quite like twin flame love. Nobody in this world feels the same way about me as my twin does and, on some level, the same is true for you and your twin flame no matter what stage you’re on.
But she is the other half of my soul. I can’t expect her to love me if I don’t love myself. In order to fully heal my past hurt, I need to first accept that they exist and this is easier said than done.
As humans, no matter how honest we are, we lie to ourselves. We’re taught as children that lying is bad but our brain is hardwired to avoid some unpleasant truths. We tell ourselves lies constantly and the first real step in accepting love and healing with others is to be honest with ourselves.
This takes real time and effort.
There is no one single way to do this. Twin flames healing has no simple A to Z roadmap to follow. Personally, I always advise meditation and astral projection while others prefer to use specific tools like focusing on a kundalini awakening, using crystals for twin flames or the twin flame mirror exercise. This part of the journey, like most of it, is entirely unique to you and your twin so don’t pigeon hole yourself based on what anyone says and that includes me.
If you find something which works well for you and is helping you continue your journey then keep doing it. Self-love isn’t easy, embracing your inner child is harder still. Working through past life hurt and accepting yourself truly is not something that is going to happen overnight.
But here’s the good news. As you focus on yourself and your own healing – you’re going to see your twin doing the same thing.
Get a Reading
If you want some further guidance on your journey, take a moment to share the details of your path and get a twin flame reading.
What Are the Signs of Healing With Twin Flames?
It won’t happen immediately but if you’re able to focus on the long term process and truly focus on your own healing you’re going to see this trigger an effect on your twin flame. You’ll start to see signs of healing with your twin flame.
Don’t try to force these signs, again this is a long term journey but as you do see them, you’ll know your healing has been working and you’ll be moving closer to union.
- Your doubts and fears of the journey will slowly start to fade.
- You’ll stop obsessing about your twin or focusing on the external.
- The healing process will become more natural and easy.
- (Finally) the barriers between you and your twin will fall away.
Remember, twin flames are two parts of the same soul. It’s impossible for one to heal and not the other. It won’t always happen at exactly the same time but you’re focusing on the long term here. As hard as that might be, when you’re truly focused on your own journey you’ll start to see the signs of your twin flame also healing and preparing for twin flame union.
Whether they’re even consciously aware of it or not.
Twin Flame Healing Meditation
I wanted to touch on this subject… briefly.
I’m well aware you have ‘twin flame healers’ selling healing guided meditations and hey, if that works for you then I’ve absolutely nothing bad to say about it.
In my experience, however, I don’t think you need anything that specific for the twin flame journey. I think meditation is perhaps one of the strongest tools we have for self-examination and improvement whether we have a twin flame or not.
There are a ton of sources to learn meditation. Personally I love apps like Headspace which are free to use and while there’s nothing specific to twin flame love or union there, it gives you everything you need.