One of the key things you need to do to further your twin flame journey is to understand (and be able to spot) a false twin flame. Getting this wrong can cause you to waste time away from your true twin flame path and cause you (both) a lot of pain.
We’ll look at the difference, how to spot a false flame and what you should do if you find yourself in a relationship with one.
Before we get too far into the details however it’s important you keep one thing in mind. A false twin flame isn’t necessarily a bad thing. A relationship can certainly cause you both pain in the short term (and you need to remove yourself from that relationship) but it’s commonly part of your true journey and something many of us will go through.
False twin flames usually arrive when they feel you need to learn something. It’ll be a subconscious drive on their part. They don’t (usually) mean anything intentionally bad or have ill intent towards you but the sooner you’re able to spot the signs – the better.
So. First thing first.
What IS a False Twin Flame?
A false flame relationship is divided into two parts. The empathic, spiritually awakened one commonly known as the twin flame victim (likely yourself if you’re reading this) and the false narcissist flame.
The arrival of a false twin flame is not luck, chance or karma. The show up when both of your energies are calling out to each other because you’re not yet ready to find your real twin flame. It is going to be an emotionally painful experience but both of you will be better off afterward.
I like this description:
The false twin flames, also referred to as the counterfeit twin flame, is a preparatory catalyst soulmate who appears in the life of a twin flame soul being just prior to connection with the true twin flame. This catalyst soulmate is extremely important to the soul evolution of said twin, although twins are already quite evolved and ascended, if not already ascended masters. While the twin is already extremely evolved and ascended, they mistake this counterfeit twin flame for the true twin. This is unavoidable and always happens, but is a necessary aspect of the journey.
This catalyst soulmate is just one of many catalyst soul mates that the twin soul will encounter, but is one of the most important and powerful due to that evolution it delivers. While twins are evolved already, there are sometimes aspects of healing they require from incidents which transpired during this lifetime. This is the particular catalyst who can get the job done, so to speak, so to pave the smooth path for the true twin flame.
Unfortunately, many twins become too engrossed in the devilish addictive attachments and drawing nature of these types of catalyst soulmate connections, even when deep within they know with whom and with what they are dealing. Because these connections mimic true twin flames in just about every sense of the word, it can become quite confusing.
Our twin flame story archive is full of people who spent far too long in toxic relationships because they believed it was part of their twin flame journey. I’ve seen (more than one) example of narcissistic people using their claimed ‘twin flame connection’ to keep someone in a toxic relationship.
I’ve seen false twin flames referred to us ‘the karmic attachment from hell’ and this pretty much sums it up. I’ve spoken before about the differences in twin flames and karmic partners (people you vibe with).
At first, a false twin flame can present as someone you get on extremely well with. If it’s your first time experiencing this it’s incredibly easy to mistake for twin flame soul shock and it’s very much NOT your fault. It’s incredibly common to find yourself in a relationship with a false flame.
Both people are going to feel the shock of this connection. At first, it can very much feel like the real thing. The difference is what happens after that initial meeting. Fairly quickly the false flame will begin to be an energy vampire. They’ll emotionally feed on the empath by manipulating them. The empath (or victim) will usually respond to this the only way they know – by becoming increasingly dependant on this false flame.
They tend to throw themselves further into the relationship leading to deeper pain later on. This is not something that is your fault. It’s entirely normal and a response the false flame is subconsciously counting on.
All you really want is to love and be loved. On a conscious level, you won’t understand what doesn’t feel right or why. The victim usually blames themselves and starts to feel like they’re doing something wrong.
This is why it’s so important to learn to spot the signs and get out of these relationships as quickly as possible.
It can absolutely be tough to spot. Especially from inside a relationship already. If you’re willing to tell me the details of your journey so far then I can help work with you on a custom twin flame reading. I’ve been doing this for a long, long time and avoiding false flames is always my first step while trying to further someone on their spiritual path.
One of the best ways of doing this yourself is learning as much as you can about the journey. Finding your true flame is worse than finding a needle in a haystack. So many questions and so few answers. How do you know if you’re doing the right thing? This free audiobook download has pretty much everything we know on Twin Flames and should keep you on the right path.
False Twin Flame vs Real Twin Flame Connections
Every journey is different and it can sometimes be tough to tell the difference – especially the first time. There are a couple of things you can do, however, and signs you can look out for to spot the difference.
If I had to narrow it down to just one main thing you had to look out for – it would be this.
Your true twin flame will build you up and help you both grow together. Your false twin flame will harm you both in ways you can’t always see at first.
Unsurprisingly in the twin flame journey (where things are rarely straightforward), there isn’t a top 10 list you’re guaranteed to see but there are certain things you can look out for.
- In some ways, your real twin flame and false twin flame will be quite a lot alike.
- When you’re dealing with karma the past is bound to be involved. A common sign of a false twin is issues of the past arising when you thought they were buried.
- A false twin will teach you how to help yourself. A true twin will teach you how to help others. An important distinction here.
- Do you know the term ‘fairweather friends’? It applies to false twins as well. A false flame is likely to start to leave when challenges arise. A real twin flame bound is only going to get stronger.
- A real twin flame will make you feel at ease and relaxed from the start. A false flame is more likely to cause you to feel anxious. The same goes for doubt and uncertainty.
False Flame Numerology – A Warning
There’s a common theory I hear a lot online:
There’s a common numerology pattern that can be a powerful one to look out for. This type of karmic link will commonly involve numbers 8 and 11. Both of these numbers refer to karmic wounds and past healing (a common trait with this kind of encounter).
While I can understand the logic here I must caution that both of these numbers are a common sign in a real twin flame connection for much the same reason. Used in conjuncture with the other signs we’ve already looked at numerology can help but I would strongly advise against using just these numbers alone.
Getting a False Twin Flame Reading
I say this constantly. Every single twin flame journey is going to be different. Every. Single. One.
We put a lot of time and effort into compiling as much information as we can here but it’s hard to account for all the different variations our readers might be experiencing. Getting a reading with either myself or someone local can really drill into the details and help you figure things out. This isn’t always required but if you’re ever in doubt it can be worthwhile getting a personal reading to make sure you’re on the right path.
Nobody (including myself) can truly see into your relationship but sometimes we can hold up a mirror that helps you see the truth for yourself.
False Twin Flame Synchronicities
One of the main signs of a real twin flame connection is the synchronicities you see together. We’ll not get into that again here but it’s important to keep an eye out for similar ones with a false flame. You’ll also notice some very specific ones you’re far less likely to get with your real twin.
- You’re likely to feel stuck in a rut with your spiritual growth.
- Your intuition might be telling you something is off and this usually results in feeling awkward and uncomfortable in conversation sometimes.
- If you try and take charge you might find yourself manipulated or threatened. This can be hard to spot from the inside however and is tricky to notice unless it’s within someone else’s relationship.
- You’ll never really feel stable in a false flame relationship.
False Twin Flame Telepathy
I’ve already covered twin flame telepathy but one of the synchronicities people don’t always expect is telepathy here as well.
Remembering that these energy vampires are led by their subconscious desires it’s hardly surprising it spreads through telepathy as well. Rather than the positive benefits you get with a true flame, however, this only leads to further manipulation, deceit and negative energies heading in your direction.
This is one of the reasons why they can do so much damage to us. Moreso than any normal manipulative person – they subconsciously get access to your thoughts and feelings that they shouldn’t have. They know exactly what buttons to push to cause the most amount of harm.
Breaking Up with a False Twin Flame
Breakups are intense at the best of times with any relationship. Once you’ve established this is not the right person I prefer the term counterfeit or dark twin flame. You know what’s going on – and it’s time to get out of there.
Breakups are going to vary from person to person. The counterfeit flame will know subconsciously that the breakup is the right thing to do but they’re unlikely to be able to process that feeling. Sometimes – you’ll get lucky. You’ll both go your separate ways and be better off for it in the long run.
Other times the break up can be explosive. The dark twin flame is likely to magnify their attempts at getting you to remain in the toxic relationship. There are cases where they’ll try to change their ways into making you think you’re throwing away your real twin flame journey. Once you study the signs and differences of a real flame connection vs a fake one though it becomes easier to keep your resolve. You know what has to happen at that point.
There is one common trend between this kind of breakup – the immense wave of relief both sides will usually feel afterward.