Considering the more spiritually awakened person is the one more likely to be studying the twin flame journey it’s unsurprising that most of the people I talk to are the chaser. But if there’s one question I get from runners it has to be why does the twin flame chaser give up?
Or maybe you’re the chaser and you feel like giving up. Does that mean it was a false twin flame connection to begin with and you’ve been wasting your time?
Firstly, navigating the twin flame journey is tough. So many questions and so few answers. How do you know if you’re doing the right thing?
But I thought it was time we took a look at when the chaser feels like giving up (note: this is not the twin flame surrender stage – that’s something very different).
Giving Up on Your Twin Flame
The truth is that the chaser giving up or moving on – doesn’t necessarily mean you haven’t found your twin flame. It might just be a temporary part of your journey.
For a start, you can’t ‘give up’ on your twin flame. All a chaser can do is stop chasing, surrender to the Universe. Twin flames are the same soul incarnated in two separate bodies. So they think and feel the same basic thoughts and feelings. The runner often will busy themselves with anything they can to drown out thoughts and feelings that seem to come from nowhere, and the ones that do come to the surface (usually about the other twin) will result in unexplained impulses (like looking for their car when they haven’t visited for months!). But the thoughts and feelings will still be there. The chaser on the other hand usually is wide open to this and thinking and feeling everything ‘in the clear’. So when the chaser stops chasing (surrender) the thoughts and feelings change for both twin flames and the runner will feel it.
Until fairly recently I’ve been the chaser to my twin flame runner. I’ve been through hell and back. DNOTS far to many to count and I thought they would kill me. But they didn’t, they transformed me. The really amazing thing is that my runner twin flame will have experienced that as well, muted because has kept herself amazingly busy with everything she could but they were there at the back of her mind and in her soul. As soon as I surrendered and stopped chasing, she would have felt those changes. While I was feeling more positive personally, I was still feeling quite negative for the relationship, as I believed I had only really come to grips with things for myself. But only very recently, I discovered I was feeling quite happy with myself and I came to feel there was a prospect of seeing her again soon. These are things that we both would have been experiencing, and in particular, she would have been experiencing because I had stopped chasing.
Runners run because chasers chase. On some level it gets as simple as that. The runner is running from the connection, embodied by the chaser. But they can’t run forever, the pull is too strong. The only reason some run at all is because their chaser won’t stop.
So yes, if you ‘give up’ on your twin flame relationship and partner, you will actually be surrendering to the Universe, to the twin flame journey, and your twin flame runner will feel it. In time they will come back, so there is nothing you need do but wait and keep looking into your heart and soul for guidance.
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The chase can be brutal. Draining. And while there is a chance that the fact a chaser quits means it was a false twin flame connection and was really just attracted to someone else mistaken for a twin flame connection – this doesn’t mean that every chaser who quits is actually quitting.
I can’t tell you the difference over an email. If it’s hard for you to know the difference – it’s impossible for me to. Feeling like the chaser in a normal relationship can be tough and you don’t really know the difference until you’ve felt that twin flame connection – but who’s to say if you’ve felt it yet.
Understanding what’s going on and what the chaser should do might be easier if you understand what the runner is doing.
Twin Flame Runners need Time and Space
Runners go through a period of intense anguish. They might be the victims of parental abandonment or societal rejection.
They might have suffered bullying at school or physical or emotional abuse from one of their ex-lovers. When someone who accepts them wholeheartedly finally arrives in their life, they are unable to come to terms with it. They feel like it’s a hoax, and that, once again, they’re going to be the subject of disappointment.
Pessimism plagues their mind to such an extent that they’re unable to decide between right and wrong. Such people need personal space and time to resolve their emotional problems. Cornering and pressuring only exacerbates their plight.
When the twin flame chaser gives up and lets organic events run their course, everything falls into place.
Sure, it might take time for the runner to realise how wrong they were to reject love in the first place, but it’s a lesson they must learn alone.
When they are left alone to heal, not only do they overcome their troubles, but also attempt to pursue the chaser.
Once you’ve tasted the love of your twin flame, nothing else satiates you. You don’t rest easy until you’re in their arms once again.
The whole universe exhorts you to advance towards your destined lover. The chaser gives it all to resist the runner’s love, but in the end, all of their attempts render futile.
At the very end, they accept that they can only find meaning and purpose in life if they accept their flames’ love. Otherwise, they are never going to attain inner peace.
It’s always better to let events run their natural course, instead of forcing things. The universe has a plan for all of us, and especially for twins.
It deviously conspires to align their fates. But, they must also understand each other’s reason. Otherwise, they’ll only end up prolonging the inevitable, extending their torment in the process.
Love is one of the things that can never be forced. Twin flame love is fiery, unstable and intense. It needs time to destabilise itself.
So in the end, the chaser’s surrender is a good thing. It catalyzes the return of the runner. Love isn’t meant to be forced to begin with. It’s liberating, not constricting!